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In 1986 I had been married for almost 5 years and had a 2-year-old daughter. We found out after trying for a few months I was pregnant. One evening a week from my due date I noticed the baby was not moving. That night we went to the hospital for an OB check and got the worst news possible. There was no heartbeat. The next morning, I met with my...

After years of trying to conceive, we moved from clomid to injections & IUI. After round 1 of so many shots, I got pregnant just in time for Father's Day and we told my family. The U/S showed a blighted ovum. Round 2 yielded another pregnancy but I lost that one by about 7 or 8 weeks. I started bleeding at work and screamed in my bathroom,...

I was 19 weeks into pregnancy. I woke up in the middle of the night in a puddle of water. I went to the hospital -- by myself, since my husband had to stay home with our 19 month old toddler. A nurse did an ultrasound and found the baby's heartbeat.   My water broke, and it was all gone -- preterm premature rupture of membranes. There was nothing...

On my 30th birthday, I went for my 12-week ultrasound of my first pregnancy only to find there was no heartbeat. I was given a choice, wait for it to pass or have a D&C. I opted for the D&C the next day. 6 days later, while standing in-front of my classroom full of teenage boys, I could feel I was expelling clots. And I’m talking golf...

In 2006 I had an unplanned pregnancy. Neither I nor my partner were ready for a child yet, and we both immediately agreed that I would have an abortion. At my first appointment with the clinic, they couldn’t find the fetus on the ultrasound, so I had to wait a week and go back. That week was soul-crushing. The wait destroyed my psyche, and every...

My story is a little different. I never had an abortion. I had two planned pregnancies with artificial insemination and I treasure them both.  I thought long and hard about being a mother because I could hear my mother saying, “I never wanted children. If I had to have children, I definitely didn’t want girls. When I had you, I already had a...

My grandmother had a back alley abortion in the early 1930’s. They had two young children, no jobs or money for food. Their neighbors  helped them out. First by paying for the abortion, then for calling the doctor when my grandmother fell deathly ill. My mother told me she remembers sitting on the porch when the doctor left the house. He stopped...

My story is familiar. The baby died at 12 weeks. We wanted him/her, my heart broke that day.  I had told my coworkers at the company Christmas party that we were expecting! I went to the bathroom at the party and there was a lot of blood. I just wanted to stay frozen in what was “supposed to be”. To say I was devastated doesn’t really cover that...

Today, Mother's Day 2022, I realized for the first time that I, too, had an abortion.  My husband and I were ready to start our family and I got pregnant very quickly in 1985.  We were overjoyed and planning for the future.  I was showing a bump when I went in to hear the heartbeat.  The next parts are just a haze of being told that there was no...